Workplace Charitable Giving

I want to work for a company that contributes to and is part of the community. I want something not just to invest in. I want something to believe in.”
– Anita Roddick

charity-blogIMG3You may not even be aware of it, but many companies not only encourage their employees to give to and volunteer time to nonprofit organizations in their communities, but will also match those efforts with dollars or other means of support.  Corporate giving is no longer just about giving; it’s aboutcreating unified opportunities to engage employees.

Workplace giving programs can operate in a variety of ways.  They may offer donations through things such as – payroll deductions, volunteer support programs, employee matching gifts, and annual giving campaigns.

  • Donations Through Payroll Deductions – Set up for employees who desire to easily donate to a worthy cause.  Companies usually limit the type of nonprofit to which their employees can contribute.
  • Volunteer Support Programs – These programs basically reward employees who donate their time to a nonprofit organization.  For instance, a company might offer a mone tary stipend to an organization for a specified amount of time that an employee volunteers there.  Some companies will also help groups of employees organize for various nonprofit projects and make a corporate donation on top of these team efforts.
  • Employee Matching Gifts – Donations an employer makes to match its employees’ charitable contributions.  They are often dollar-for-dollar, but some companies will give double or even triple the original donation!   And when employees participate in fundraising events, their employer may match the money they raise through sponsorships or other donations.
  • Annual Giving Campaigns – These use payroll deduction to channel donations to charities, but these take place during certain times of the year. One of the leading fundraising drives in the United States is the Combined Federal Campaign (CFC), sponsored by the U.S. government. (A number of states have workplace giving campaigns of their own.)

Another popular giving practice is when businesses take up collections to donate to a local cause.  They may also choose to sponsor a family in need or give to a local shelter.  This seems to be as effective and morale-boosting as volunteering.  If you don’t have one already, you may want to help set up a canned food drive in your office.  Employees can bring in canned goods and drop them in a box, which can then be taken to a local food bank.

If your workplace is short on options, consider doing some online research to find a respected charity that matches your desire to give.  Charity Navigator, the nation’s most-utilized assessor of charities, rates them on one to four stars, and gives a top-ten list. Those that make the cut have all received Charity Navigator’s highest rating in financial indicators as well as integrity and transparency.

It is easy to find your perfect match, as you can browse by categories in alphabetical order, which include: Animals, Arts, Culture, Humanities, Community Development, Education, Environment, Health, Human Services, International, Human and Civil Rights, Religion, and Research & Public Policy.  This is also a good way to get children and family involved, inspiring long-term awareness of the issues in the world both near and far.

Whatever you decide to give and however you decide to do it – you will have a sense of belonging to a greater cause and knowing you have made a difference in someone’s life.

Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world.
Indeed, it’s the only thing that ever has.”

– Margaret Mead


Forbes – Charitable Giving

5 Things You Can Do to Get Your Family on a Sleep Schedule


Dreaming of academic success for your little scholar? Sleep is a crucial component to a positive school experience.

As summer officially draws to a close and the days grow shorter and colder, the sleeping schedule may have slacked. When school is in session, that schedule snaps back and can really catch kids by surprise. If they are used to going to sleep at 9:00 and now bedtime is 7:30, you might be looking at a power war.

And lest we forget, kids need more sleep than adults, with preschoolers requiring 10-14 hours per night1. They need that time for specific brain function development, and growth, so there’s no better time than the present to coax everyone into bed at a reasonable hour, to hopefully wake up feeling refreshed and ready for each day. Here are a few little tidbits to get you there:

  1. Gradually ease bedtime forward. Do what parents have always done and put them down with the sun, just scooting back by 10 minutes or so. That won’t work in the winter when it’s dark at 5:00pm, but in the autumn, it can be one signal to the younger kids that it’s bedtime.
  1. Wind down after dinner. That just means reducing down stimulating activities like playing on the tablet, listening to loud music, or watching TV.
  1. Form a regular routine. Even the teens need to stick to a uniform program so that the younger ones don’t protest. This helps set the body’s circadian rhythms that help our senses distinguish when it’s time to be awake from when it’s time to sleep.
  1. Hold yourself to a reasonable schedule too. That also goes for adults, because no one benefits if you are stuck in third gear in the morning. It’s tempting to stay up and watch grown up TV, but consider taking a bath, stretching, or reading as sleep-prep alternatives.
  1. Do a relaxation exercise. If your little ones have trouble winding down, do a breathing exercise with them and make a game out of it. Breathing to a count of four, or slow finger counting will give them something to focus on, but it will also relax them. Again, this is an easy habit that the whole family can do.

You don’t have to be a disciplinarian about it, but creating a calm environment with daily practices will eventually get everyone’s sleep habits to align. You’ll not only be surprised by how much better everyone feels and gets along as a family when they are getting enough sleep, but the kids will be poised for a fantastic new school year. Sweet dreams!



Age-Appropriate Politics: Talking to Your Kids About the Election


We are a nation that prides itself on free speech, but that means we don’t control the conversation. 

A second grader came home from school last week and asked her mother what will happen if the (expletive) gets to be President?  Her mother was completely taken aback.  “Where did you hear that?” she asked.  On the playground, of course. 

Politics has always been a dirty business with the mud slinging and the glad-handing.  However, this election has seen some really disturbing practices that have astonished even the veteran journalists and pundits who have covered politics for decades.  The lack of a handshake at the last debate is one example, or one candidate referring to a former candidate and POW veteran from his own party as a “dummy.” 

For our children, this type of low-blow rhetoric is especially problematic.  We don’t want them thinking this level of discourse is normal, not on TV or on the playground.  By the same token, we want to shield them from the larger problems. 

There is regular talk about bullying, sexual assault, corruption, and police brutality. How do we educate our kids about these heavy-duty topics and put these charged phrases into context?

  1. Talk about it and listen to them.  We need to be clear about what is taking place in an age-appropriate way.  Children need to understand how important the election is, the history of the vote, and the struggle for everyone’s voice to be heard.
  2. Be honest about tough subjects.  The world is not fair.  It’s not just and it’s not kind.  This is a rough lesson, but we are better off having age appropriate conversations about real world problems like social injustice.  Keep it simple and answer their questions as best you can.
  3. Respect all sides of the political arena.  Don’t talk smack about the party you don’t belong to.  We all try to avoid name-calling and teach our children that they should never hurl insults, but when it comes to politics, we often get so worked up that we give ourselves a pass.  We need to avoid knee jerk reactions to opposition and instead, try to elaborate on the need for diversity in the public conversation. 
  4. Present your views as your own.  We all have different perspectives that are shaped by our backgrounds and social group. 
  5. Facts vs. opinions. Kids should know that we are expressing our opinions and learn the difference between opinions and facts.  Facts contribute to opinions and facts are indisputable where opinions are not.
  6. Agree to disagree.  This election brought many different causes, priorities, and data out into the light, but these things can sometimes muddy the waters further.  If you can model respectfully disagreeing with someone else’s opinion for your child, you show them that we are all entitled to our vantage point.  That is what voting is all about. 
  7. Play by the rules, even if others don’t.  The big teachable moment here is why some of us follow the law and some don’t.  Some of us are honest, and some of us aren’t, and when it comes to politics, most aren’t.  However, if we let unlawful or immoral behavior be the measuring stick, we all quickly sink to the lowest level.  Our kids should know that we play fair because we have an internal moral compass that demands it. 

Our kids will encounter hateful language in their lifetimes, and election season is fighting season.  They will hear hurtful words and not understand.  That’s just life.  We can show them how to stick up for themselves against abusive and disrespectful language by modeling self-control, emphasizing the positive, and demonstrating the importance of everyone having a right to expression in a democracy. 

Fantastic Scholastics: Great Spelling Apps for Kids


Are your middle scholars having trouble with spelling? Not to worry, most kids work out the kinks with a little extra help. The amazing thing about new educational technology is that we have learned so much about the human brain in the last 15 years and as a result, gaming apps are often designed around different stages of development.

Take a look at these interactive apps for iPhone that entertain and build basic skills at the same time.

Most kids get there just fine when all is said and done, and so if they are having trouble with spelling, the best thing we can do as parents it to try and make it fun. Make sure that you sit with them and play the games with them, so that it is not only a fun activity, but also a chance to spend some entertaining time with you.

Working Together: Coping Solutions for Sibling Rivalry


Parents share some ways to minimize conflict and promote harmony.

You are having the fifth tear-your-hair-out moment of your day; from the second they woke up, they have been at each other’s throats, squabbling, yanking toys away, provoking tears, and demanding you weigh in.

This is typical when multiple children reach a certain age, but it can be very distressing for the entire family, and if parents don’t set up an atmosphere where sibling disputes are resolved, it can affect kids into adulthood1. Thankfully, there are some tested methods of cutting rivalry off at the pass, so to speak, and here we share some of these ideas from parents who have to contend with multiple children and strong wills.

It’s important to note too, that part of childhood is growing into identity and our family is the first place where we see our best and our worst qualities reflected back at us. This is why decades later, holiday meals with the relatives can become tense; our family will always be the first crucible that made us into who we are. The overarching theme in these parental pieces of advice is communication, the willingness to face the sticky and uncomfortable parts of loving other people. It takes practice and humility, and no one gets it perfect.

Start encouraging a positive relationship before birth. A new baby is an anxious experience for older siblings, particularly if they are still young. They give up being the center of attention (in China where one child per family is mandated, only children are often referred to as “little emperors”2) and they have a sense their whole world is going to change. To counteract this, prep them for the bond they will experience with their new brother or sister.

Have regular talks with your child or children about the baby arriving, revisit their own baby pictures, and let them talk to the baby in the tummy. There are plenty of kids’ books with this new baby theme, like Julius, the Baby of the World. All this illustrates that it’s normal to be worried, but it is actually an opportunity and a cause for celebration.

Illustrate the role of the older sibling and point out the positives. Kids respond to roles, and helping gives them a sense of worth, so make sure that they know they will be mommy’s helper and that they will be looking out for their younger sibling as they get older. Make quality time before and after baby’s arrival so the older kids don’t feel left out. Some jobs you can give them include assistant, comforter, teacher, and entertainer.

Give the older sib some private space. A crawl space or closet makes a perfect fort or clubhouse that belongs just to that kid. It’s a place where they can play on their own, or go to calm down when they are upset. This idea of personal space is one that translates to older kids too, and the sense that you are defending their right to keep some things for themselves is very valuable.

Set limits. In a culture where “helicopter parenting” is rampant, it is important to let our kids sort their dynamics without intervention, to a point. If there is a struggle over a toy or activity, it’s ok to say, “If you haven’t figured out a way to share or take turns in three minutes, the toy goes in the garage,” and walk away. As parents, we sometimes subconsciously avoid conflict at all times. We bribe, we redirect, and we give into unreasonable demands. But letting them negotiate is part of development and unless things escalate, at which point a break becomes necessary, give kids the chance to resolve their conflict themselves.

Always listen to everyone’s side. When arguments or issues come up, have a sit down, and take the dispute seriously. Nothing creates antagonism better than the feeling of injustice, that a parent is automatically siding with the youngest kid. Listening is one of the more powerful tools you have as a parent, and it requires patience. Children want to resolve conflict, and during these discussions, point out that everyone wants to feel better. Play fairly; don’t play favorites.

The key here is to stay loving and positive with the knowledge that it is a process. It is way more difficult for some kids, and some really take on their new roles without difficulty. The best thing parents can do is employ fairness and keep an open conversation going. This way, as adults, your children will continue to work out their conflicts in a conciliatory way.



Calming Techniques to Soothe the World-weary Mind for Parents


Modern life with its 24-hour news stream, smart phones and computers continually pumping more information into view, makes it increasingly challenging to focus on our individual lives. And even there, our schedules are full, our obligations to friends and family require maintenance, our finances and possession demand constant attention.

Our health is also a major factor contributing to our worldview. Somewhere along the line we traded convenience for nutrition and as a nation, we are seeing the effects, both physical and psychological.

In yoga there is a Sanskrit word for this feeling over overwhelm: vritti. It translates roughly to whirlpool of emotion, or the constant chatter of the mind. There are tricks to turning down the volume that don’t require outsmarting your monkey mind. They don’t require more money, or a ton of spare time. But investing in these tricks can mean the difference between calm alertness and keeping the head above water.

  1. Seek Nature. This doesn’t mean booking a two-week vacation in the woods. It means stepping outside to admire the night sky, going for a walk, building a snowman, gardening, making mud pies in the backyard with your child.
  1. Breathe. Sitting quietly, deliberately setting aside your plans, memories, emotions seems so simple, but its is the fundament of our existence. Listening to the air move in and out of your lungs triggers a series of events in the body that slow down the anxious mind.
  1. Add in the good. It is a daunting task for most people to go on a detox, cleanse, fast or diet. It’s an easy way for most of us to disappoint ourselves. So instead, consider the concept of adding in the good. Target 2 or three combinations of things you can make a part of your healthy self-care. When you sit down to eat, take a moment to acknowledge all hard work that contributed to the food you are about to enjoy. It makes it taste that much more delicious.
  1. Slow Down. Tim Ferriss pointed out that most of us are so afraid of failure, we don’t even bother to pop the trunk on “failure” and see what it looks like. Will the house burn down if we let the vacuuming go? No. Will the dentist still see us if we are 3 minutes late? Yes, probably. But we let these little things rush us around and rush our kids around. After you do the breathing ask yourself nicely to slow down. It will all get done.
  1. Think Local. We can use our energies to fret about the state of the world, or we can drive that same energy into something where it does have an impact: our own communities. Networking and volunteering go hand in hand, and giving time is a great way to strengthen our selves by assisting others. Studies have shown that people who volunteer or do hospice care have better health, recover from illness quicker, have lower instances of depression. 

Contentment is not gained by owning more, doing more, getting thinner or traveling to a better place. Our levels of happiness and resilience are determined by our outlook and the quality of our attention. As parents, we must adopt tools that will in turn teach our kids how to cope with challenges, how to create conditions for maximal happiness, and how to keep calm and move along.

10 Acclaimed Kids’ Books: Why They Are Great and What They Will Teach Your Child


Revisit some classic literature from your own childhood and meet some contemporary favorites.

Great stories really are the gift that keeps on giving. They illuminate the most essential parts of humanity, and children’s books do this with simplicity and a beauty that sticks for a lifetime. We all want our children to live a life full of imagination and curiosity, not to mention learn how to love fully and live honestly.

Take a first look, or a worthwhile second look, at the following titles:

  1. Where The Wild Things Are by Maurice Sendak

Why it is great: Sendak ranks among the best storytellers and illustrators in the last century, partly because of his skill (the drawings are so detailed, charismatic, and distinct) but also because of his willingness to tackle tough subjects head on, like misbehaving.

What it will teach your child: This story is a beautifully drawn metaphor for how bad behavior is sometimes about the need to be in one’s own world. Children often experience frustration when they feel powerless, and Max, our anti-hero, sails off to another fantastic land where he is the king of the monsters. Parents are just an aside in the story, but their presence and warmth are vibrant characters.

  1. The Snowy Day by Ezra Jack Keats

Why it is great: Keats brought a subtle humor and a city sensibility to kids lit that wasn’t there before. Using a combination of collage and drawing, Keats introduces African American characters with an everyday charm and humor in a time when books where dominated by a more singular perspective.

What it will teach your child: This book is a glorious depiction of that first winter snowfall, and the sense a child has that the whole world is new and ripe for exploration.

  1. Blueberries for Sal by Robert McKloskey

Why it is great: The striking details of this book are so alive that the characters, both human and animal, jump from the page. Sal, short for Sally, is a short-haired, overall-wearing adventurer whose curiosity gets the best of her.

What it will teach your child: McKloskey captures the simplicity of country life with a perfect portrait of mother and daughter. In its small way, it hints at the value of exploration but also the value of listening to directions.

  1. Owl Moon by Jane Yolen

Why it is great: Vivid art with and an engrossing but quiet premise, Owl Moon is a story about searching and familial connection. It evokes a wonder for nature that is wordless, and the richness of the moment.

What it will teach your child: A boy and his father go out after dark on a full moon to see if they can find an owl. The boy discovers that to find the elusive creature, you must use patience and stillness.

  1. Where the Sidewalk Ends by Shel Silverstein

Why it is great: Because kids love rhymes! This author writes poems about nonsensical people and imaginary creatures that seriously crack kids up. His jaunty style grabs attention for kids and grown-ups. Warm up first because this one is a tongue twister!

What it will teach your child: That the world is not always as orderly as it is seems. That pigs actually do fly, and that if you don’t take the garbage out, the consequences could be disastrously funny.

  1. Harold and the Purple Crayon by Crockett Johnson

Why it is great: This kind of simple style isn’t really en vogue anymore, but the imagination it took to create it is totally exceptional.

What it will teach your child: This story is a brilliant metaphor for visualization, the process by which we dream something up and make it actual. Harold’s magical tool is nothing other than a simple crayon, but with this tool he draws himself a whole adventure.

  1. Olivia by Ian Falconer

Why it is great: Falconer is a New Yorker cartoonist who infuses this laughable story with inside jokes and surprises. The use of black and white is especially striking.

What it will teach your child: Olivia is an irreverent little pig living in the city with her family. She marches to the beat of her own very loud drum, but she also knows when she has taken her antics too far.

  1. Madeline by Ludwig Bemelmens

Why it is great: You probably remember this series of books that take place in a Parisian boarding school. The art is consummately French and the language is written in catchy rhyme.

What it will teach your child: It’s from another time and place when kids were educated by nuns, and tonsils were still a problem. Madeline herself is an emblem of courage that kids can easily relate to.

  1. Frog and Toad are Friends by Arnold Lobel

Why it is great: This series is a beloved first reader collection that shows the value of friendship, despite obvious personality differences. Half and half pictures and text, the narrative is charming, funny, and a great starter book for when kids are learning to read on their own.

What it will teach your child: Sometimes unlikely characters bond and they must then do unlikely things to solve problems. Sometimes awkward situations pop up but true friends help each other through.

  1. The Story of Ferdinand by Munro Leaf

Why it is great: There was never a more fully realized vision of the Spanish countryside (complete with matadors and flamenco dancers) than in Ferdinand. The story is witty and universally relatable.

What it will teach your child: That is ok to be different and that sometimes, doing your own thing presents a distinct advantage.

The beauty of these books is that adults can also get completely carried away to another time and place. Sharing this magic is one of the best things you can do for your child, presenting them with a richer perspective and a bigger sense of the world.

The Rock Stars of Work-Life Balance: A Case for Single Mothers as Managers

Let’s do away with the misconception that women raising children on their own are less qualified– they are, in fact more capable by necessity.
Janet was 24 when she finished her second tour of duty in the U.S. Army, where she was posted in Frankfurt, Germany.  She specialized in computer science and was hoping to continue her education after her service when she met Adam, a fellow serviceman.  They became great friends and their relationship quickly accelerated after they both completed their military time.  Within a year, Janet got pregnant with her little boy, Owen, and while both Adam and Janet had plans to get graduate degrees, the economy took a nosedive when they arrived back in California.  
Adam got a job at a moving company and within the financial struggle, their relationship fell apart.  Owen was not even two years old. Adam was accepted into a CPA program but it required him to relocate, so Janet moved into her own place, supported by a Section 8 housing subsidy.  The money she received from her service was barely enough to cover her expenses.  After Owen went to sleep each night, she would stay up late researching online programs, local resources, and possible solutions to her childcare problem.  
By the time that Owen was three and a half, Janet got accepted into a reputable IT program, completed an introductory coding certificate, and was learning how to design websites.  Her classes were dominated by men but she did meet other women in her position in her neighborhood, and one night when they got the kids together, this small group of women realized they had unwittingly assembled a team of programmers, designers, coders, and management to form their own company.  
For the next year, these women traded off with childcare, pooled their resources for babysitters so they could have meetings, and gave each other moral support with their work and studies.  Janet and her friends created a site where local parents could meet, do trades, borrow and lend, and plan group trips.  They received acumen from their local press and businesses were suddenly lining up to advertise on their site.  
Janet’s story is not uncommon in this vastly changing economy where single mothers are currently estimated at 9.9 million.  Compare that number to 1970,when it was 3.4 million [1].  According to Pew Research Center, in 2013, moms makeup to 40% of the breadwinners in American households and 63% of them are single [2].  
That is not to say that going at it alone is always a success story.  Women who got a college education before marrying and having children out earn women who didn’t if they divorced or never married in the first place [2].  
Despite the fact that stigma around single motherhood is a powerful influence in the job market, these women have a unique set of skills that make them excellent candidates for management.
What are some of the immediate experiential qualities that single moms bring to the table?
  Problem Solving.  When you are a single mom and you get a flat tireand the school calls because your toddler is sick and you are on adeadline at work, you don’t have the luxury of a personal assistant ortime to panic: you assess the situation and take action.  By proxy,these women are excellent at the strategic gymnastics it takes to
navigate the unexpected.
 Time Management.  Again, procrastination is not an option when you are self-sufficient.  Women in this situation are reasonable about their time constraints, learn early how to prioritize, and distill tasks down to the most time-effective processes.  
 Budgeting.  And boy, do they know how to stay accountable andstretch a dollar.  That means looking at spending over the long term
and fastidiously tracking it. 
 Creativity.  The Internet has done worlds of good for moms who carefor young ones during the day but have a product to sell or an articleto write at night.  Mothering inspires idea improvement, innovation,and collaboration.  For women on their own, creativity isn’t afrivolous dream, it’s a life skill they put to use on a daily basis. 
Because women are making such powerful strides in the last 30 years, and they are out performing their peers in arenas like new businesses, job creation, and employee satisfaction[3], it is crucial that we demystify the outdated notion that single women are a fringe minority.  They represent a significant portion of the population contributing to the economy, and we do them and ourselves a disservice by overlooking them when we hire for management positions.  

Fun in the Sun Starts with Skin Safety


As spring progresses and summer is right around the corner, it’s a good time to remind everyone of the importance of protecting your skin from the sun’s harmful rays. With increased outdoor activities this time of year, it’s critical to keep your entire family protected.

Safety begins with wearing the right attire. Shirts, hats, shorts, and pants can provide the best protection from UV rays. Also, finding shade in order to enjoy some time for reading or for a family picnic is a safe way to make the best of outdoor time. You can also be mindful to plan around the sun; go outdoors early in the morning or late afternoon, when the sun is lower, as UV radiation peaks at midday.

In addition to these tips, clearly proper sunscreen use is essential. You should actually wear it year round, but as we enjoy the warmer temps this season, it’s important for us to review what you should keep in mind when it comes to sunscreen:

  • Always check the SPF for UVB protection. The SPF number indicates how well a sunscreen protects against ultraviolet B (UVB) rays. If you’d normally get a sunburn in 10 minutes, an SPF 15 extends that by 15 times. So you could last 150 minutes before burning. How high an SPF do you need? An SPF 30 or higher is recommended.
  • Look for UVA protection when you purchase a sunscreen. The SPF doesn’t tell the whole story – it only refers to protection against UVB rays. Ultraviolet A (UVA) rays pose their own risks. So make sure the label on your sunscreen states that it has UVA, broad spectrum, or multi-spectrum protection.
  • Look for water and/or sweat resistance. Keep in mind that these products are not waterproof. They will still wear off, but they will last longer than typical sunscreens.
  • Reapply regularly. A few dabs in the morning will not last the whole day. Follow the directions on the bottle for reapplying – especially after you’ve been sweating or in the water.
  • Young children’s skin is especially sensitive to chemical allergens – as well as the sun’s UV rays. Be sure to test sunscreen by applying a small amount on the inside of your child’s wrist the day before you plan to use it. If an irritation or rash develops, try another product. Ask your child’s doctor to suggest a product less likely to irritate your child’s skin.

Taking the proper precautions and using the right sunscreen in the right ways will ensure your family safely enjoys this spring and summer to the fullest extent. Keep the discussed tips in mind, and we’re sure you’ll do just that.

Fostering Lifelong Growth with Daddy Daughter Dates


Little girls have a special bond with their fathers, a bond that continues to reward father and daughter for a lifetime. In the interests of creating an evolving, unique connection, we’ve put together a list of fun and interesting things that Dads can do to nurture their relationship with their special girls.

  1. Build something together. Girls like making things, and so do Dads. Maybe a dollhouse, or a birdhouse, where smaller hands can do the gluing, clamping and painting. Getting into the garage and showing her how to use some of the tools are great ways to get her interested and provide that sense of satisfaction that comes with completing a task.
  1. Father/Daughter Superhero Costumes. You don’t have to wait until Halloween to get into your alternate identity, and little girls love playing dress up. You can be Couchsurfer and she can be your sidekick, Ottowoman! You can be the Howler and she can be Pipsqueak. You get the idea. If you really want to crack her up and you have no shame (and most father’s don’t, when it comes to amusing their little girls) take her grocery shopping or to the post office in your superhero costumes. When people ask you can just tell them, “yeah we are superheroes even when we are shopping”.
  1. Take her to breakfast before school. Kids will get up early if there is something fun to do before school, like going to breakfast with Dad! Having an early meal out at your favorite breakfast joint is one of those things she will remember for a long time.
  1. Pick up a new skill– together. Maybe you always wanted to learn Spanish, or golf, why not set up some lessons or online classes that the two of you can learn together. This is advantageous in that it’s not about you teaching her something but more about you both trying something new together. Pick something that both of you are likely to stick with, and even if it’s once a week, within a year, hopefully you will be under par or conversational.
  1. Get lost in a story. If your daughter is a little older, consider picking up a classic like Through the Looking Glass or Robinson Crusoe. An ongoing adventure is something the two of you can share, like a secret place you can visit anytime.

We all want our daughters to fulfill their dreams, to move though the world with a strong sense of self, and one of the ways we can facilitate that is by simply spending time with them. For fathers, it is especially important to carve out this time, to illustrate learning, fun and adventure. Not just for them, but for the joy it provides us too.